The false promise of the New Year and making changes.

So the end of one year and the start of the next means there’s certain things in shops that you can always expect to find.   

New Diaries, one more aspirational then the next, calendars for the new year, fitness products, gym gear etc all go on sale. And it’s really not uncommon to find people in supermarkets with trolleys loaded with salad and green tea. 

A new year brings a promise that once the calendar year rolls on to the first of January, all our past bad habits will just get erased and we have the opportunity to start again, clean slate and all. Of course from that moment onwards we’ll all become this completely new person, full of salad, green tea and wearing gym shoes ready to take on the treadmill at the local gym. 

Also don’t forget day one and the fresh pages of a brand new planner/ organiser lined with neat and tidy writing, almost reminiscent of starting that new school year, the first day back after the summer holidays.

The thought of being more organised, losing weight, getting up at the crack of dawn just to go for a run and actually using the George Foreman Grill all gets said out loud, multiple times, as the new day of a brand new year kicks in. 

Of course it’s an exciting time, full of motivation, ambition and promise. You won’t find another time in the year when the gym is full of people all dressed in luminous green Lycra all frantically trying to burn off that Christmas dinner like you do in January.

Every year it’s the same, we all promise ourselves that the start of a new year will bring change, a fresh start. Forget the negatives of the previous year and all the bad habits. This is the year to better yourself. Bad habits will be broken, family and friend frauds will be fixed and our bank accounts will fix themselves. 

Sadly though, the optimism to make a change usually fades out as soon as it comes in, bad habits don’t fix themselves and problems don’t just go away just because the date has changed. 

The problem is with most people’s resolutions is the fact that they are just too broad and hard to stick by for an entire year.  

Here are twenty four resolutions which I think everyone should at least consider looking into for the year (s) ahead: 

1| Stop posting negative stuff about celebrities on social media.

Honestly Miley Cyrus does not care what you think about her hair cut, Harry Styles does not care what you think about his tattoos and Justin Bieber does not care about what you think about his life style choices.  You’re better off not spreading negative vibes, thoughts or energy, it’s a waste of your time. 

2| Stop resenting yourself for drunk texting your ex or that guy who you slept with but never bothered to answer your messages the next day.

Sure, it’s going to be embarrassing the next day when sober you has to undo the damage of drunk you, but at the end of the day, you have far better things to be doing then worrying about what your incoherent self wanted to say. If they respond laugh it off, at least you’ve addressed some of your feelings.

3| Have travel aspirations? Leave the country.

Don’t have the funds to leave the country? Look into doing some travel work abroad. If you do some looking around and research you’ll discover that there are programmes willing to sponsor you. 

4| Hate your job? Quit.

If you are finding yourself hating your job, feeling miserable every time you wake up and go to bed every night stressing out about the fact that you have to go to work the next day, quit. No money is worth the personal unhappiness. Of course, food and shelter is a must though, so be sure to have another job lined up or at least some idea of what you’re next plans are before you take the plunge and quit.

5| Stop beating yourself up for skipping the gym.

Especially if you were seriously busy and didn’t have the time. Let’s be realistic, there are going to be days where you won’t make it to the gym and you really shouldn’t beat yourself up about the fact that you skipped out on an hour’s work-out. But also, stop skipping the gym on days where you definitely did have plenty of time to go too. 

6| Make up and clear the air with an ex.

Now I’m not saying that you should get back together with your ex here or anything like that. But talking it out and closure is often a really good thing. 

7| Rid yourself of ‘enemies.’

Learn to appologise when you are in the wrong and forgive those who have wronged you. 

8| Rid yourself of “frenemies.”

 Do not spend 2017 surrounded by people you secretly despise or who are toxic friends. You’ll thank yourself later. 

9| If you find someone attractive, talk to them.

I know it’s not always easy to start conversations with people, especially when you find them attractive, but say hi and introduce yourself. Just remember every relationship and friendship that you have started off with a greeting of some description. 

10| Stop caring about the likes.

Stop caring about how many people “like” your Instagram photos or Facebook posts or tweets. If you like the photo enough to post it, what else matters? If you think your status is funny, post it, who cares if it’s only your mum and great nan who liked it? Social media anxiety is a waste of time.

11| Cross something off your bucket list.

If there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, see, experience, do it. Life is too short, stop making excuses why you can’t accomplish something. Also think of how proud you’ll be once you achieve something.

12| Stop hating yourself for eating dessert.

 A piece of birthday cake is a right, not a privilege. Also you’re allowed to treat yourself every once in a while. 

13| Keep a journal of some description. 

It’s not something you have to use on the daily, but documenting your experiences is very important. It doesn’t have to be something you use daily, but documenting your experiences is incredibly important. Also you’ll appreciate it later and you never know, someday you might look back and smile.

14| Strengthen relationships with family members. 

Blood is thicker than water.

15| Help strangers. 

Give someone something, whether that’s your time or money or support etc. Also don’t post a Facebook status about it. 
16| Conquer a fear.

Think about how proud you’ll be. 

17| Turn off your smartphone at dinner.

This is something I definitely need to work on. However, it’s nice to concentrate on your food and not what’s going on in the online word for a bit. 

18| Don’t check your Twitter feed or social media when you’re with friends.

Taking some time away from your phone is a good thing. Also by absorbing yourself in the online world, you’ll be missing out on what’s going on in the world around you. 

19| Try a fashion trend you never thought you could pull off.

 And, do it with confidence. Floppy hats, snap backs, Disco trousers; you can do it!

20| Double-text without fear. 

It’s 2017, stop worrying and do it. 

21| Shop locally, eat locally and recognise where your money is going. 

Give money to small companies. Visit your local small cafe for a coffee instead of Starbucks, buy fresh fruits from the market instead of a big supermarket chain. Basically support your local businesses instead of lining the pockets of big conglomerates. Also you never know, you might find your local cafe makes a much nicer latte then Starbucks does, and is made with more love. 

22| Don’t be afraid to cry or express your emotions.

Cry. Cry when you’re happy and sad. Learn to embrace your emotions. Also you’re not a Nancy for being an emotional wreck and crying in front of others.

23| Stop being so shallow and judgemental.

I know it’s difficult, hey even I occasionally find myself doing it and despise myself afterwards. Next time you find yourself judging someone based on their appearance, think about how much that would hurt if they were doing that to you. Also you know the saying, don’t judge a book by a cover? Well it’s a great quote.

24| If you want someone to commit to you, vocalise it.

Why should you settle for just being someone’s fuck buddy if you want to be more to them? “Seeing someone”or “together” is the period between talking and dating and really shouldn’t last forever. Especially if that person is seeing more than one person. You deserve more than that. Also waiting around for someone to decide if they want you to be more to them, is wasting time. You’ll probably find that there’s people out there who’d love the chance to be with you. 

So these are some of my ideas. Hopefully 2017 will be a happy and prosperous time for everyone.

Keep an eye out for more up-coming posts soon. 
Love, hugs and pugs,
Keri.

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